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Maybe it's better than people saying "Wow, you've put on weight haven't you?" - which they do, I know.
I think maybe they might feel that you're making an effort to lose and if they don't comment you might feel hurt that they haven't noticed you're succeeding! But on the whole I agree with you. It's rude to comment at all, I guess - but sometimes it's difficult not to when there are extremes one way or the other.

When my kids came back on their first holiday here after living in England for a while, they had both ballooned unbelievably. And though I didn't say a word, the expression of horror on my face, which was totally involuntary, must have said it all, because they were furious with me. That reaction of course was plain guilt because they knew they were too fat so they took that out on me.

Now I just tell people that they're looking great - only if I really think they are, though! I won't patronise anyone, or embarrass them, willingly.

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I think that telling someone they've lost weight is the same as saying "you used to be a lardarse and now you're getting too thin and I feel more secure when you're fatter than I am!" Anyway I'm sensitive about my humungous caboose, and I get irritated when people tell me I've lost weight because then I know that they're telling me I have a huge butt. I don't need to be told that.

Anyway, it doesn't matter what people look like, it's who they are that counts.

I swear the next person who says "have you lost weight?" is going to get it I'm gong to ask them whether they thought I used to be a lot fatter especially when it's accompanied by "you've lost sooo much weight!" when I'm still fat!
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I'm totally in agreement that what you look like is not important, but who you are and how you behave, is.

My cousin was here today and she has always been very large - she has tried absolutely everything to lose weight, even having that tummy band operation, but it's her metabolism and in the genes, and I don't even see her weight - I see her for the very special, kind, loving, fun person that she is.

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I'm never going to be really thin again. It's a combination of age and Germanic genes, I can't fight it. I have lost a little weight but I imagine it's about as much as I'll ever lose again.

Anyway, grandmothers are supposed to be soft and cuddly.
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I talk to the trees, but they don't listen to me ...

I get so mad when with the man in my life sometimes! I'm trying to discuss something important and find out his opinion regarding a decision, and he has his face buried in the latest technical magazine that arrived in today's mail, and not hearing a single word that I say. No comment.
It's just impossible not to mention bloody rude. Grrrr!
I think I'll go out and order what I want and spend the money anyway - he won't remember whether he's agreed to it or not.

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Funny how they can tune us out isn't it. And then when you tell them you'd spoken to them about it they say "no you didn't"
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So true - he always denies I've told him something - and he always insists he's told me things when I know he definitely hasn't - and I do listen to him!

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Time for another rant, but a mild one lol!

I have again discovered why I detest using a sewing machine.
It takes me an hour at least to simply thread the needle, and then I get depressed at the reminder that my eyesight is deteriorating rapidly now ...
The little top I'm trying to make is supposedly an easy pattern. Ha Ha. It requires thin straps that tie at the shoulders. Fine. Cut four straps, fold in half, stitch leaving one end open, trim the seams, turn inside out and press. Ha Ha. Trim the seams fine, but the material frays - and have you ever tried to turn long thin narrow straps inside out? It takes half an hour to do each one, and because the fabric comes apart as I try to push it through with a crochet hook, I then have to turn them back to the wrong side again, stitch down to strengthen the seam, and start all over again.
So far I've been busy for about three hours and achieved practically zip! emoticon emoticon :ono: :ono: emoticon emoticon
Oh well, I'm retired - I supposedly have oodles of free time with nothing else to do except mess around with little bits of material.
I'm not very patient with myself I'm afraid!
Just as well I love our grand-daughter as much as I do - this is definitely a perfect example of "a labour of love"!!
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There are lots of tops at shops. Buy her a designer one as a special gift. She'll love have a "label" to show off to her friends. emoticon
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Nah - she isn't a designer kid, too much of a tomboy for that.
I think she'll be more thrilled to tell her friends "My Nana made this especially for me!"

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